2021.10.16 19:21 Hopeful_Muffin How to heal from ongoing trauma whilst living in a toxic environment ?
I’ve (23f) heard of healing from past trauma but never of how to heal from it when it’s ongoing. I find myself on an emotional rollercoaster. I live with my toxic mum and it’s ruining my life. Even when my mum doesn’t speak to me she still does things to bother me. One of the major issues is her hoarding and lack of hygiene. She will let her rotting meat juices get all over my fresh produce and move it back if I move them away. I’m not allowed my own fridge as I can’t afford to pay the £100 a month fee she wants me to pay for wasting her electricity. She physically and emotionally abused me till I was 18 then switched to emotional only.
Just in the last week we have argued over the bins and she refused to pick up my medication after I spent the night in hospital. She’s also a religious nut but also a total hypocrite. I try and ignore her and not to get into it but I’m still stressed. I feel like I’ve been so worn down and only really gotten momentum in the last year as I was on antidepressants and in therapy for 6 months till I felt a lot better mentally. I got a lot better and was more social. I felt stable enough to return to school.
I was in a very dark place from 16-19 and in poor mental health till the beginning of this year tbh. I got out of a bad relationship and met a wonderful man who I’ve been seeing the last few months. However my mum keeps demanding money from my boyfriend for letting him date her daughter (me). I’m so upset at her behaviour. I have to go home tonight after work and my rooms probably been trashed by her as I spent the last few days with my bf.
She likes to throw out or touch my things eg. Clothes or food no many how many times I tell her not too. I’ve tried a door stop and even wanted a lock but aren’t allowed as it’s a rental. Shes done things like made me homeless as a minor around exam season, interrupted phone/ video job interviews. She stopped my access to university (online learning) till I fell in line during the time I did attend.
Going as far as threatening to go to my workplace to cause a scene and get me fired (she’s actually done this to my sister). She’s has used emotional blackmail to get money out off me and will let things get cut off till I pay it with my credit card. She tried to pressure me to take out loans for her multiple times but thankfully it didn’t go through as I didn’t have a guarantor.
I know the best solution is too move out but it’s not an option currently. I work a low paid part time retail job (3 days weekly) and am balancing attending a fast track qualification (2 days weekly) with it. Once I am qualified I can start earning 18k (entry level salary) per year till I have more experience then make up-to 25k. I have no savings and around 3k in debt.
My course does not allow me to apply for any loans, grants or provide financial help as it’s classed as part time. I can’t afford private therapy and our healthcare only offers CBT/ cognitive therapy. I’ve done the program previously and found it helpful to an extent but it still doesn’t solve my issue or address deeper trauma.
It’s always with the same therapist as she’s assigned to my area. I am not allowed a council flat or a place at a women’s shelter (over subscribed) as I am over 18 and have no diagnosed health problems that would stop me from working. I did do the talking therapy and stopped earlier this year as it finished so it’s not like I’m not putting effort into getting better. My course finishes in February so I’m hoping to get a job in that field and leave but till then I’m going insane.
If anyone have been through the same situation I’d appreciate any advice thanks. I’m U.K. based.
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I've got an iPad mini 2 that i previously succesfully patched setupapp on and was working fine just until a week ago. The iPad has not been upgraded, it just decided to bring back the setupapp screen.
I tried using the same method that i used before to bypass (Checkra1n and Sliver). After using Sliver, the iPad froze, i let it rest for about an hour, but nothing happened, the homescreen never appeared. Battery ran out, i charged it up and ever since, its just bootlooping. It never gets past the apple bootscreen.
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